As a parent of an addict this is the motto I have to live by…
I didn’t cause it
I don’t control it
And I can’t cure it
Some days this is impossible to remember.
Seems that would be good for parents of acquired brain injury too.. I know I couldn’t help what happened but still some days I wish I had answers even if it was something I did wrong.
“sometimes”? I’ve been in the program for 2yrs. and 3 months…I go to 3-4 meetings a week. And every day I relapse by thinking…”maybe I was too critical when he was growing up”..”if only I hadn’t used shame in discipline”….”I was too self centered and didn’t pick up on things other parents would’ve addressed”….
God help me love my alcoholic son regardless.
Believing that I couldn’t control or cure it came easy….believing that I hadn’t caused it took a very long time. My counselor friend told me that it was just another form of me trying to control it…if it was my fault then surely I could figure out what to change about myself that would fix it all.
I picked up my book today and saw the 3 C’s there and it was SO helpful. Now my book has moved to the table by the bed and a morning reading will be welcome once again. Ahhh, the holidays.
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